Quotes

 "We cannot choose where we start out in life, but we may finish where we will" Tony Judt. 

 

"Isolation exists only in isolation, once shared it evaporates"  Irvin Yalom.

 

“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”  Carl Rogers.

 

 

If you are in immediate crisis, contact:

www.samaritans.org

www.befrienders.org

Books I recommend as a starting point
  • If Not Now, When? (Abacus Books)
    If Not Now, When? (Abacus Books)
    by Primo Levi
  • The Gift Of Therapy: An open letter to a new generation of therapists and their patients: Reflections on Being a Therapist
    The Gift Of Therapy: An open letter to a new generation of therapists and their patients: Reflections on Being a Therapist
    by Irvin D. Yalom
  • The Marshmallow Test: Mastering Self-Control (Unabridged)
    The Marshmallow Test: Mastering Self-Control (Unabridged)
    by Walter Mischel
  • H is for Hawk
    H is for Hawk
    by Helen Macdonald
  • Everything I Never Told You
    Everything I Never Told You
    by Celeste Ng

About online work


If we embark on counselling work together, I will e-mail you with details before the first session about how the skype/phone sessions will be conducted.  Although I maintain a fairly flexible schedule, due to the nature of phone/skype counselling and taking into account the privacy needed for both of us, it is important to schedule a time when neither of us will be interrupted. 

You may choose to work with me by phone or with Skype for a number of reasons:  you may be housebound - be ill or have limited mobility, have caring or parenting responsibilities, or anti-social working hours. In addition you may have a need for privacy, you may live abroad or be working as an expat, or you may have limited access to well-qualified professionals.  Scheduling may be easier when working online, and convenient in that you are likely to be having the session from your home, so you don't lose time in travelling to a session.   

These are some of the advantages to working online.  There are disadvantages too in that the technology may be unreliable, or it may be challenging to build a relationship between the two of us because of the technology. The lack of visual and auditory cues can be difficult. You need to make sure that you won't be interrupted during the session, and that you are able to talk without distraction.

For telephone work, I will telephone you on a landline.  If you need to use a mobile phone we will make other arrangements.  For Skype you will need a system with an integrated or additional webcam and a good internet connection.  

You may find the following links to articles about online counselling and psychotherapy interesting:

http://www.health.harvard.edu/press_releases/depression_and_psychotherapy

http://www.gather.com/viewArticlePF.jsp?articleId=281474977220535

http://www.apa.org/monitor/oct02/distance.aspx

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=distance-therapy-comes-of-age

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/creativity-way-life/201105/therapy-in-your-pajamas

 

If you have any other questions, please contact me via the "To contact me" tab in the left-hand column.  I will get back to you within 48 hours.